She continued, “I care enough about your evolution to not answer those questions because it’s like popping a zit that you know isn’t going to pop. It’ll just leave a fucking scar; it’s not a good thing to do. You can’t know what someone is feeling until they tell you, and when they tell you, believe them.”
I tend to feel an urgency to act, to make a decision about things before I’m ready, or when action isn’t even necessary — and of course, she saw this in my chart, too. Not only was I given a lot of food for thought that was relevant to recent situations, but it will serve me well in all my future intimate relationships, as well.
Right now, my brain is locked in a loop of constantly asking what other people want, what other people feel, and what I should do about those things, and those are the wrong questions. Instead, Lanyadoo told me to start asking, “Am I acting with integrity? Am I taking care of myself? Am I centering honesty and being forthright? Am I committing to a fantasy of someone?” She explained, “These are the better questions to ask because they will help you break your patterns.”
Further, she encouraged me to live in the gray area, rather than to think in black and white terms. “Whenever you catch yourself saying this or that, either/or, you know that Read More